Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Relationships


Not all relationships can withstand the onslaught of time and distance. Some are washed away like footprints on sand by waters of the ocean. Some melt like morning mist when touched by sunshine. Some are eroded like grains of sand by storms of time.

A very few endure like scriptures engraved on the surface of a rock.

It is said that every relationship is for a reason, a season or a life time.

Some people come into your life for a reason. These are people who come into your life when you are in trouble, when you are in need etc. They come; they serve their purpose and leave. Guardian angels!

Some come into your life for a season. They are people who come to you when you are alone and keep you company. They are also your classmates, roommates, college mates and friends who spend some time with you, give you happiness, give you memories and go their way as you go yours.

Some are for a lifetime. Your parents, your siblings; they could also be your best friends. Sometimes, you are introduced to certain people. Within twenty minutes of meeting them you feel you have known them from another life.

People come and people go. Unable to make a distinction, the heart goes through the roller coaster ride time and again. Excitement, togetherness, happiness and suffering. The heart wants to cling to everyone who touches it. It bleeds every time someone goes away. The first time, the pain is excruciating. The second time, it is a familiar pain. One fine day, you become numb. Nothing is felt.

One must learn to let go. “Set it free. If it comes back to you, it is yours to keep. If it does not it was never meant to be”. Not everyone is meant to be there forever. If all of them were to stay, you would need a thousand hands to clasp them all.

7 comments:

aman said...

“Set it free. If it comes back to you, it is yours to keep. If it does not it was never meant to be”.

this is one oft used line by sundry and all......guess the typical attitude of hiding under convenience......loves not about being together always....its about experiencieng it......just because the person isnt there with u doesnt mean he or she doesnt love you.....its situations which define a human being and we need to understand that.......

Archie said...

"If all of them were to stay, you would need a thousand hands to clasp them all."

WOW!! amazing piece Sowmya!! We often wish it was possible to hold on to everyone we come across, never managing to hold on to more than a handful. I guess its never meant to be :)

Sowmya said...

Aman, I agree with you somewhat but that line is meant to help people move on in life instead of clinging to their past...

No matter how hard we try, we cannot live without expectations. Everyone begins with everlasting togetherness in mind. when that does not happen, there is misery and grief... But one needs to move on... and thats what the line means....

All said and done, one should not regret having loved.. whether it was meant to last or not.... as you said it is all about experiencing it...

Sowmya said...

Welcome archie,

Thanks for visiting this space....

Anonymous said...

My take on this is, keeping relationships is similar to the pawns on chess board. If its full, the game cant be played. There needs to be empty spaces in between. The old ones should go and new ones should come. The ones that have to be there, will be there - whether you want them or not. What say?

Sowmya said...

A good analogy :)

BTW, who is this??

Anonymous said...

Great prospective.
I belive relationship are not to keep. It is to be true to a relationship. Yes all relationship does changes with time, and would rather say, it matures. If we are true to our feelings with someone, and can express it openly, then i feel whatever color the relationship takes, still the bond remains. We can only hate some one we love dearly. no one hates a strangers.